“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”
― Theodore Roosevelt
If I had to choose ONE thing to really commit to, in order to step into my worth, it would be letting go of limiting beliefs. Of course, all the other aspects enhance our ability to move forward but this is the goal of all goals.
Limiting beliefs are beliefs or mindsets you hold about yourself or your reality that restrict you in some way.
We all have limiting beliefs, and there are plenty of resources out there diving further into what limiting beliefs are and how they affect us.
The way to get past your limiting beliefs is NOT. thinking about them.
The way to get past your limiting beliefs is NOT. thinking about them. It’s not knowing what they are or writing them down. It’s not even studying and exploring where they came from. Those steps are important to an extent in self-study, but they are not the way you break free from the limiting beliefs themselves.
The way we break free is taking action. We don’t have to be completely rid of the belief to act. We take action in order to conquer it. A prime opportunity to use “fake it till you make it”.
For example:
- Your limiting belief is that you are shy. So your action step is to show up and give your best effort to be the OPPOSITE of shy. Then show up in that way again, and again, until your limiting belief is gone. You may still prefer alone time or to observe and that’s fine, but it certainly doesn’t mean you are shy.
- Your limiting belief is that you can never do a backflip on the trampoline. It’s too hard. You’re scared of it. Your action step is to practice that backflip every chance you get until one day you land it. Boom– limiting belief released.
- Your limiting belief is that you are not a healthy eater or not a workout person. Your action step may be to meal plan or prep for the week and go to the gym. You begin moving your body and eating in a way that benefits you and the limiting belief is conquered. New habits are formed.
Remember – you don’t have to do or be something 100% of the time in order to own it as a part of you. We are multidimensional beings and that is by design.
BIGGEST ONE:
- Your limiting belief is that you are not inherently worthy. Your limiting belief is that you have to earn your worth by being “good”. You know you are worthy from a logical standpoint even, but your subconscious belief still tells you you are not. Your action step is to find evidence in your life that you are worthy, without DOING anything. Yes, you can continue to let those things you do every day fill your cup in other ways, but acting as if you believe you are worthy no matter WHAT, day after day, will eventually help reframe that subconscious belief and let go of your limiting mindset, little by little.
One incredible way to do this is to treat yourself as if you were tending to a small child. Small children are completely innocent. They deserve to be nourished, hydrated, in bed on time, loved, attended to, encouraged, forgiven, and cared for. They deserve peace and joy and silliness and to express themselves creatively. We are all just grown up children, and we deserve these things as well. We inherently deserve them as people. It is our human right.
Action creates more action. Movement creates more movement.
My soul has been letting me know lately that it is tired. It is over carrying my limiting beliefs around. I am done acting from a place of feeling unworthy. I’m sick and tired of it and the only one who can change it is me. I am ready to take aligned action and change my life.
“Life is tough, my darling, but so are you.”
– Stephanie Bennet Henry
Ask yourself:
- What are my top three limiting beliefs, or the first three big ones that come to mind?
Action step:
Take an intentional step to counteract one (or more) of your limiting beliefs. Bonus points if you commit to doing so every day.
Resource: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life